This blog is based on examples that I have come across both in the therapy room and generally in conversation.
These things are incredibly common in people who have low self-confidence and I always find it such a shame.
With a little work, even the people who do the following can learn to be confident.
Overly critical of themselves...
We all know these people, even if you think something they have done is great, they will find negatives or criticisms of their performance.
This can often be accompanied by what we call maximising and minimising where a person will minimise their own positives or skills and maximise others. This gives them a very skewed view of the world where everyone around them becomes much better by comparison.
There are a number of reasons why someone with low confidence will engage in behaviours such as excessive eating or drinking, drug taking or excessive risk taking. Lacking in self-confidence is a big reason why people do this.
The way we think has a huge impact on our mental health. If you are looking to overcome your anxiety or just improve your mental health then first you need to know what thoughts are making things worse.
This download gives you a list of the most common ways we think negatively. All you need to do is see which ones you do most.
Also, keep an eye on your emails! I will be sending you a really useful video that goes with this exercise.