Best explanation that I can find from research, neuroimaging and from feedback from clients is that hypnosis, when delivered therapeutically, calms and focuses the mind. When people struggle with anxiety, they often can’t control the thoughts that come into their minds. These thoughts can often remind them of past upset, encourage thinking of worst-case scenarios and contribute towards a constant negative self-talk that damages confidence and self-esteem.
Hypnosis seems to be able to cut through this constant stream and show people how they can calm their minds.
Once you know how it feels you can then do this for yourself, this is called self-hypnosis. This means that clients with anxiety learn how to calm and control their minds so that they can choose how to respond to thoughts that come into their mind.
By creating this calm and focused mind we can then add in other techniques such as positive suggestions to build confidence and visualisation to help the...
I used to watch the London Marathon most years with my Dad and for some reason got into my head that I wanted to run it some day, I have no idea why as running is NOT an activity that I enjoy...
Later I made it a goal that I would do the London Marathon before I was 30.
2014 was my first marathon attempt!
Unfortunately one week before the marathon my pony, Linford, decided to have a huge strop and crushed my big toe!!! When it happened I didn't realise the extent of the injury, after all it was just a toe right?
Jon drove me to Salisbury A&E as we figured we needed to know how bad it was and one Xray later we discovered a crush fracture of the end bone in my big toe and the fracture had compromised the joint.
I asked the consultant if there was any chance I could run on it and was met with a look of complete disbelief and the word "no".
All those hours of training and I spent the next few weeks walking around with this sexy footwear:
After the burn of 2014 I had...
The term "toxic positivity" is one that I have seen on social media recently.
This episode explains what it is and how we can avoid turning positivity into a negative thing. We will also be covering how we use positivity in a therapy setting and how you can support friends and family members who may be going through a rough patch.
When we doubt our abilities we hold ourselves back so much!!
There are many reasons why we may have developed doubts in ourselves so here are some suggestions that I have found work with both myself and also my clients...
Stop comparing accomplishments with others.
Number one in my book is to stop comparing yourself to others. I didn't get my degree until I was 30 years old, most of my friends got their degrees at the "normal" age. It really didn't matter that I got mine at a different time because I did it when it was right for me.
By comparing yourself unfavorably with others, you are opening the doors to feelings of inadequacy.
Ultimately everyone is on their own journey through life and will have ups and downs just like you so focus on what works best for you!!
Decide not to give a stuff what other people think.
This is hard to do but is so important for overcoming self doubt. Generally we worry what people think because we are scared of being judged.
Decide you don't give a...
I often get asked what my number one tip for confidence is and my answer always surprises people!!
In this episode I talk about why self awareness is so important to developing confidence and how you can work on developing your self awareness.
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Whenever I go to networking events or present my work to people always get asked the same question:
What is your number one confidence tip then?
Sometimes this can be a bit annoying, of course I can compress years of learning, personal and professional experience into one sound byte for you...
BUT, I do have a pretty smart arse answer...
That's right, my number one tip for confidence is to develop self awareness. Not necessarily what people are expecting.
There are a huge number of reasons why self-awareness will be beneficial to your confidence so I am going to present my top three reasons why you should work on it!
By the way, Self-awareness has to be done carefully with as little judgement and emotion as possible. Think of yourself as a kind assessor that can only give constructive feedback on your personal set of pros and cons.
Have you ever had someone react to something you have said or done in a way you...
In this episode I answer questions on building confidence, even if you have never felt it before!
Our brains have an incredible capacity to learn new skills and learning to be more confident is exactly the same.
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The syndrome is one that I have been aware of before and have struggled with myself in the past so I know from personal experience what it takes to deal with it.
Despite studying anxiety and psychology extensively, I still occasionally catch my negative thoughts saying "why on earth would people listen to you?".
Not what you need when you are about to hit the stage!!
What is Impostor Syndrome?
Put simply it is the overriding feeling that you have achieved where you are by luck and could be found out at any moment as a fraud.
This can be in the work place, as a parent or even as a student.
It was originally thought that women were more affected than men however, more recent studies have found that gender doesn't have any impact on how likely an individual is to develop it.
As such a wide range of people struggle with impostor syndrome, believing that their accomplishments are not down to their own successes in life.
Do I have Impostor Syndrome?
How do you know if you have...
The way we think has a huge impact on our mental health. If you are looking to overcome your anxiety or just improve your mental health then first you need to know what thoughts are making things worse.
This download gives you a list of the most common ways we think negatively. All you need to do is see which ones you do most.
Also, keep an eye on your emails! I will be sending you a really useful video that goes with this exercise.