I used to watch the London Marathon most years with my Dad and for some reason got into my head that I wanted to run it some day, I have no idea why as running is NOT an activity that I enjoy...
Later I made it a goal that I would do the London Marathon before I was 30.
2014 was my first marathon attempt!
Unfortunately one week before the marathon my pony, Linford, decided to have a huge strop and crushed my big toe!!! When it happened I didn't realise the extent of the injury, after all it was just a toe right?
Jon drove me to Salisbury A&E as we figured we needed to know how bad it was and one Xray later we discovered a crush fracture of the end bone in my big toe and the fracture had compromised the joint.
I asked the consultant if there was any chance I could run on it and was met with a look of complete disbelief and the word "no".
All those hours of training and I spent the next few weeks walking around with this sexy footwear:
After the burn of 2014 I had...
When we doubt our abilities we hold ourselves back so much!!
There are many reasons why we may have developed doubts in ourselves so here are some suggestions that I have found work with both myself and also my clients...
Stop comparing accomplishments with others.
Number one in my book is to stop comparing yourself to others. I didn't get my degree until I was 30 years old, most of my friends got their degrees at the "normal" age. It really didn't matter that I got mine at a different time because I did it when it was right for me.
By comparing yourself unfavorably with others, you are opening the doors to feelings of inadequacy.
Ultimately everyone is on their own journey through life and will have ups and downs just like you so focus on what works best for you!!
Decide not to give a stuff what other people think.
This is hard to do but is so important for overcoming self doubt. Generally we worry what people think because we are scared of being judged.
Decide you don't give a...
Whenever I go to networking events or present my work to people always get asked the same question:
What is your number one confidence tip then?
Sometimes this can be a bit annoying, of course I can compress years of learning, personal and professional experience into one sound byte for you...
BUT, I do have a pretty smart arse answer...
That's right, my number one tip for confidence is to develop self awareness. Not necessarily what people are expecting.
There are a huge number of reasons why self-awareness will be beneficial to your confidence so I am going to present my top three reasons why you should work on it!
By the way, Self-awareness has to be done carefully with as little judgement and emotion as possible. Think of yourself as a kind assessor that can only give constructive feedback on your personal set of pros and cons.
Have you ever had someone react to something you have said or done in a way you...
The syndrome is one that I have been aware of before and have struggled with myself in the past so I know from personal experience what it takes to deal with it.
Despite studying anxiety and psychology extensively, I still occasionally catch my negative thoughts saying "why on earth would people listen to you?".
Not what you need when you are about to hit the stage!!
What is Impostor Syndrome?
Put simply it is the overriding feeling that you have achieved where you are by luck and could be found out at any moment as a fraud.
This can be in the work place, as a parent or even as a student.
It was originally thought that women were more affected than men however, more recent studies have found that gender doesn't have any impact on how likely an individual is to develop it.
As such a wide range of people struggle with impostor syndrome, believing that their accomplishments are not down to their own successes in life.
Do I have Impostor Syndrome?
How do you know if you have...