I used to watch the London Marathon most years with my Dad and for some reason got into my head that I wanted to run it some day, I have no idea why as running is NOT an activity that I enjoy...
Later I made it a goal that I would do the London Marathon before I was 30.
2014 was my first marathon attempt!
Unfortunately one week before the marathon my pony, Linford, decided to have a huge strop and crushed my big toe!!! When it happened I didn't realise the extent of the injury, after all it was just a toe right?
Jon drove me to Salisbury A&E as we figured we needed to know how bad it was and one Xray later we discovered a crush fracture of the end bone in my big toe and the fracture had compromised the joint.
I asked the consultant if there was any chance I could run on it and was met with a look of complete disbelief and the word "no".
All those hours of training and I spent the next few weeks walking around with this sexy footwear:
After the burn of 2014 I had...
The attitudes that you have about yourself, others and the circumstances around you have a huge impact on your ability to be happy.
if you have a calm and rational attitude to all of those things then it stands to reason that you will be able to deal with any problems that occur without an overly emotional response.
1: Understanding that you are responsible for your emotions...
if you have read any of my previous blogs then you will have noticed that I make a big deal about what you think. This is because our thoughts affect our feelings which in turn affect our actions.
By understanding that our thoughts affect our feelings in any situation, we can learn to control our emotions.
Bad things happen to everyone. When something bad happens, it is perfectly normal to have a negative emotional response to the situation.
If you are in a car crash or going through a divorce or have lost someone then it makes sense to have negative thoughts about the situation because they are negative...
I talk about anxiety a lot obviously because that is a big part of what I do!!
I'm going to recap some stuff about anxiety but I'm also going to talk about some of the deeper issues that anxiety can cause because it is quite a difficult thing to deal with an ongoing basis, people actually can develop quite severe issues if anxiety is not dealt with.
I'm also going to talk through some different anxiety disorders as well and give you a very brief overview of what they are.
Anxiety is the fear of a future event as to why we have that fear depends on the person, depends on the situation and depends on whether or not there's been a past issue.
It also depends on whether or not the person with anxiety is lacking in the personal self belief and their confidence to take on new things or situations.
Our perspective on a future event is also key to anxiety and I have talked extensively in workshops about how thoughts lead to feelings which lead to certain actions.
The syndrome is one that I have been aware of before and have struggled with myself in the past so I know from personal experience what it takes to deal with it.
Despite studying anxiety and psychology extensively, I still occasionally catch my negative thoughts saying "why on earth would people listen to you?".
Not what you need when you are about to hit the stage!!
What is Impostor Syndrome?
Put simply it is the overriding feeling that you have achieved where you are by luck and could be found out at any moment as a fraud.
This can be in the work place, as a parent or even as a student.
It was originally thought that women were more affected than men however, more recent studies have found that gender doesn't have any impact on how likely an individual is to develop it.
As such a wide range of people struggle with impostor syndrome, believing that their accomplishments are not down to their own successes in life.
Do I have Impostor Syndrome?
How do you know if you have...
Understanding your anxiety
One of the first things I discuss with clients is how their anxiety works. Almost straight way they will say "I know it's stupid but...." and then go on to describe their anxiety to me.
This assessment of their anxiety as "stupid" shows me two things. One, the person in front of me is aware that the anxiety they are feeling is illogical. Two, they think that diminishing it or dismissing it will make it go away.
Wrong on both counts.
Anxiety is not stupid as this blog will be aiming to demonstrate and to get a grip of anxiety you need to UNDERSTAND it...
What is Anxiety?
Put simply, anxiety is a fear of a future event.
This fear can occur because of previous experiences that have been negative, a new experience that you can't control or an experience that is normally fine but somehow you suddenly become scared of it going wrong.
Anxiety is both a mental and physical condition. The mental aspect in anxiety is the mental fear of something and this...