It is easy when talking about anxiety and mental health to become very preoccupied with the issue. It is so important that we also consider how we are going to make the changes necessary to improve our lives.
In this episode I talk about the attitude changes needed to be able to live a happy life.
Click here to find out more and see which negative thoughts are holding you back.
Something that gets asked regularly in 1 to 1 session is:
"How can I learn to be confident when I have never felt it before?"
Good question right? how would that person know what it feels like!
In an ideal world when working with clients they are able to think back to a time when they felt confident. We can then use visualisation, meditation and self hypnosis tools to help build on that and improve their confidence.
For some people though, they tell me they have never felt it before so how are these people able to dramatically improve their confidence?
Discovering your confidence
if you have never felt confident before it can be tricky to imagine a future with confidence so as a therapist, I start with the basics.
Therapists are trained to ask very high quality and specific questions that are designed to help people consider themselves in a different way.
This means that I can find something that makes that person feel good about themselves.
If this describes...
This episode is a big one!!! I am tackling meaning and purpose and how they relate to anxiety.
Crucially there are two exercises included that will help you to find your purpose and meaning in life.
PLUS I am talking about how you can find fulfillment in your job, even if it is a job you don't enjoy at all!!!
Loads of great info and help packed into this episode so make sure you listen.
As always, you can find more information and a FREE negative thoughts exercise at: https://www.anxiety2confidence.com/
In this episode I talk in more detail about how the adrenaline causes the physical symptoms of anxiety. I also talk about what kicks off an adrenaline response so that you can consider what thoughts might be starting your anxiety.
You can find out more about what thoughts are holding you back by heading to https://www.anxiety2confidence.com/
Here you can download your very own list of cognitive distortions and see which ones you do most often.
The term "toxic positivity" is one that I have seen on social media recently.
This episode explains what it is and how we can avoid turning positivity into a negative thing. We will also be covering how we use positivity in a therapy setting and how you can support friends and family members who may be going through a rough patch.
Do you practice cognitive distortions?
The chances are that you do! most people do at some point in their lives but often people struggling with depression or anxiety practice cognitive distortions more than most.
What even are cognitive distortions??
A cognitive distortion is a thought that has a negative impact on your life and is often not true. There are a HUGE number of ways that we do this so I'm going to just focus on the most common distortions that I see regularly in treatment sessions.
But what if...?
Ah!! What if...?
Absolutely the most commonly used cognitive distortion that I have ever come across. My clients who want to learn to control their anxiety or depression almost ALWAYS tell me that this is something they do.
Here's how it goes:
Client: I get anxious about social situations, even with people I know.
Me: OK, what is going through your mind when you think about these situations?
Client: I'm thinking, What if they don't want me there? What if they think I'm too...
Self doubt can be crippling. It's that horrible little voice in our head that tells us we can't or we aren't good enough.
This episode covers what you can do to overcome self doubt!
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When we doubt our abilities we hold ourselves back so much!!
There are many reasons why we may have developed doubts in ourselves so here are some suggestions that I have found work with both myself and also my clients...
Stop comparing accomplishments with others.
Number one in my book is to stop comparing yourself to others. I didn't get my degree until I was 30 years old, most of my friends got their degrees at the "normal" age. It really didn't matter that I got mine at a different time because I did it when it was right for me.
By comparing yourself unfavorably with others, you are opening the doors to feelings of inadequacy.
Ultimately everyone is on their own journey through life and will have ups and downs just like you so focus on what works best for you!!
Decide not to give a stuff what other people think.
This is hard to do but is so important for overcoming self doubt. Generally we worry what people think because we are scared of being judged.
Decide you don't give a...
I often get asked what my number one tip for confidence is and my answer always surprises people!!
In this episode I talk about why self awareness is so important to developing confidence and how you can work on developing your self awareness.
If you have any questions that you would like answered on my podcast then contact me at [email protected]
Whenever I go to networking events or present my work to people always get asked the same question:
What is your number one confidence tip then?
Sometimes this can be a bit annoying, of course I can compress years of learning, personal and professional experience into one sound byte for you...
BUT, I do have a pretty smart arse answer...
That's right, my number one tip for confidence is to develop self awareness. Not necessarily what people are expecting.
There are a huge number of reasons why self-awareness will be beneficial to your confidence so I am going to present my top three reasons why you should work on it!
By the way, Self-awareness has to be done carefully with as little judgement and emotion as possible. Think of yourself as a kind assessor that can only give constructive feedback on your personal set of pros and cons.
Have you ever had someone react to something you have said or done in a way you...
The way we think has a huge impact on our mental health. If you are looking to overcome your anxiety or just improve your mental health then first you need to know what thoughts are making things worse.
This download gives you a list of the most common ways we think negatively. All you need to do is see which ones you do most.
Also, keep an eye on your emails! I will be sending you a really useful video that goes with this exercise.