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How does anxiety affect memory?

Uncategorized May 29, 2020

I have been inspired to write this blog for two reasons, firstly because many of my clients who have anxiety, with or without depression, tell me that they struggle to remember things. Secondly because as part of my psychology MSc we have been studying the effects of anxiety in exam performance.

If you have read any of my previous blogs, then you may know that my experience of anxiety and depression lead to me failing my first degree. I always knew deep down that my mental health was a huge factor in my abilities to study and pass exams so studying this from an academic viewpoint is really reassuring!


Memory is a very complicated thing

When researchers look at memory, there are lots of different aspects of memory that can be measured. Most people have heard of long and short term memory and are familiar with the differences, especially If you have ever been around a person with degenerative issues such as Alzheimer’s or Dementia.

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How to be more assertive

Uncategorized May 17, 2020

This is the important question right!! You have probably heard of the saying “fake it until you make it”. Well, there is an element of truth to that in that you have to practice being more assertive until it becomes a habit.


The beliefs of assertiveness


As I discussed in my blog about anxiety and communication styles, it is our self-beliefs that dictate how we act in certain situations.

Someone who defaults to an assertive style has the belief: I’m OK, you’re OK


They believe or act as if all the individuals involved are equal, each deserving of respect, and no more entitled than the other to have things done their way.

For someone with anxiety this means you!

You are equally deserving of respect, you are equally entitled to have things done your way and your self-belief has to reflect this.

This can be a challenge in some situations such as when you are new at work, however you can still turn this around in your head and believe...

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How anxiety affects the way we communicate with and treat others.

I have talked before about the link between thoughts, feelings and actions with anxiety and the way we think can have huge consequences for how we feel and what actions we take.

Anxiety can lead to a huge range of actions from avoidance (which is the most common) to more self-destructive behaviours like substance abuse.

In this blog I am going to focus on how anxiety affects the way that we communicate with and treat other people.

There are two main aims of this blog, one that you understand other people a little bit more and hopefully show some compassion for their behaviours that affect you and secondly so that if you are someone who does many of the things I am going to be discussing, you can understand why you do them and hopefully see how you could change them.

It is important that a person with anxiety does take steps to change these behaviours as it will drastically improve the way people perceive you and respond to you.




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Self-Hypnosis for anxiety

What is hypnosis and Self-Hypnosis?

Many people have seen hypnosis on the TV and associate it with people doing things beyond their control. This type of hypnosis uses a lot of suggestion and a certain amount of trickery to work and, only works on a small proportion of the population.

When we use hypnosis as a therapeutic tool, we are talking really about hypnosis that is similar to being absorbed in a really good book. It is a calm and relaxed focus that allows us to calm the mind and the body so that we can start to train the mind to think differently.

This is particularly useful with issues such as anxiety because it can help combat the overactive mind and physical issues that come with anxiety.

Self-hypnosis is hypnosis that you can do on your own, you don’t need a therapist or an mp3 to talk you through it. There are loads of benefits to this approach but the main one is that you can take control over how you think and feel without the need for loads of therapy sessions.

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How to make the most out of online therapy

The Covid-19 pandemic has had a catastrophic effect on so many different countries in the world.

At the time of writing, the UK is about to enter another three weeks of isolation during which all but essential businesses are shut down including mental health services like hypnotherapy and counseling.

What is online hypnotherapy like?

When it is done well, online therapy is the same as face to face therapy. I am very thankful that I have been running online sessions for many years now as some of my clients live too far away or can't travel for some reason. Therapists who are comfortable using online platforms are able to be exactly the same as they would be in person.

With my clients, I structure sessions in the same way.

We have a good chat through all the challenges you are facing, map out your anxiety cycle and make a plan for how we are going to work on the issues you have brought up. We can still do hypnosis work over the video call and all exercises and mp3s are emailed over...

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PODCAST - Exercises to help with anxiety, stress and overwhelm

anxiety podcast Apr 10, 2020

This week I am bringing to you a series of exercises that will help you if you are feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed by the current situation or in general.

These exercises are a mixture of NHS recommended breathing, mindfulness and self hypnosis for you to have a go at at home.

The key thing about exercises like this is that you find a way to make them work for you, so give them a go and see what works best for you!

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Managing mentalhealth through the corona virus lockdown

Uncategorized Mar 27, 2020

More tips this week on making sure that your mental health doesn't suffer during the current corona virus crisis.

These are recorded in the UK which is at time of recording a couple of days into a lock down in order to prevent the spread of the virus.

The UK advice is to stay at home and people are permitted to leave their homes for essentials and one form of exercise.

Here I share a few tips that will help you keep your mental health under control and help yourself at this incredibly difficult and unsettling time.

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PODCAST - How to manage anxiety through the Covid-19 pandemic

Uncategorized Mar 20, 2020

s the Covid-19 pandemic has shut schools and we are anticipating more strict measures soon in the UK, I thought some tips on how to manage anxiety in this situation would be of most benefit.

Here are some simple tips to keep you sane and in control of your anxiety as we face an unprecedented challenge to our mental health.

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I am also opening up my 28 Day Positivity Challenge for FREE for the duration of the crisis to help you practice one of my favorite coping mechanisms. You just need to head here: to sign up for free.

Stay safe and be kind x

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PODCAST - How Competence helps build Confidence

Welcome to this weeks bumper episode!!!

I have yet another guest joining me this week to talk about how being more competent at something can significantly improve your confidence.

In this episode we hear from Inter 1 dressage rider and trainer, Amy Blount who has loads (literally loads) of great suggestions and tips to help you go from dreading "stressage" to confidently performing under pressure.

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This episode has loads of great tips even for non-riders as we discuss anxiety and how it affects our confidence and our ability to perform.

Find out:

  • The benefits of having a plan
  • Why adaptability is so important
  • The importance of visualising goals
  • Why even set goals and how they prepare you for success
  • The benefits of practicing under pressure
  • Useful tactics for performing under pressure
  • The importance of mental strength in dressage

And so much more!!

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Why your "locus of control" is so important for mental health

Locus of control and wellbeing


This blog has been inspired by a research paper I was looking at for my MSc Psychology that I am currently studying through the University of Derby. The paper itself was about something slightly different but I found myself interested in the concept of the locus of control and then excited when I realised its significance to anxiety and wellbeing.


What is a “locus of control”?


The locus of control is basically how much you think you have control over your environment, successes and failures.

A person with an internal locus of control is more likely to attribute their success to their own hard work.  These people will be more motivated because they believe that they can succeed by working hard and putting the effort in.

A person with an external locus of control tend to believe that they are less in control of their lives and that things happen through chance or luck. When things don’t go well they attribute...

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Discover which common negative thinking patterns you have.

The way we think has a huge impact on our mental health. If you are looking to overcome your anxiety or just improve your mental health then first you need to know what thoughts are making things worse.

This download gives you a list of the most common ways we think negatively. All you need to do is see which ones you do most.

Also, keep an eye on your emails! I will be sending you a really useful video that goes with this exercise.