When we experience the symptoms of anxiety such as the heart racing or feeling sweaty and shaky we are actually experiencing our bodily response to fear.
Our fear response comes about because our brains have evolved to keep us alive for as long as possible, his means that it is hard wired to fear things that threaten our lives.
What can happen in people with anxiety is that the fear response doesn’t only react to life threatening situations, it starts to respond to situations where death is very unlikely.
An example of this is fear of flying, statistically the risk of death is low but people with a fear of flying experience sometimes very extreme symptoms when faced with even the thought of flying.
Anxiety can also come about because of a fear of looking stupid, this might seem less important than life threatening situations but actually we evolved to be social creatures and our survival depends on that. Being laughed at, pushed away or ignored could have had a very dangerous...
I have decided to lump procrastination and motivation together in this blog as I find that they often work in tandem with each other.
Often when we procrastinate we lack in motivation and I wanted to write a blog that would cover both aspects and give a good idea of how you can start to notice that your anxiety is playing a part and then do something about it.
For my full blog on this head here, but the short form is that anxiety is a fear of the future. This can be a specific event or just a general unsettling fear of something going wrong.
Anxiety is a very normal process of protecting you from harm but when we talk about people who struggle with anxiety as a mental health issue, this natural process has gone a bit wrong and is becoming overprotective to the point that it negatively affects your life.
Anxiety is linked to the fight or flight response in our bodies that help us prepare for life threatening situations and so comes with a range of physical...
Visualisation is a well documented and utilised technique. It is often used by sports people to improve performance and mindset.
How do you do it?
Put simply, you imagine what you want to visualise! Build a picture of the situation in your mind making sure that the details are clear in your mind.
Imagine a lemon in your mind.
Imagine what it looks like, what you can see and how detailed you can make it. You might be able to imagine the small pits in the skin and the dried stalk remnant at the end.
Then go further, can you imagine how it would smell? How would it feel in your hand?
Imagine cutting it and smelling the juice even more strongly. Imagine even, what it might taste like!
Is your mouth watering yet????
That's how strong it can be.
Find out how you can learn self-hypnosis and visualisation from the comfort of your own home HERE.
Make it bigger
Take that same process and apply it to the thing you want to improve. Build it up in the same way, what you can see and...
I have been inspired to write this blog for two reasons, firstly because many of my clients who have anxiety, with or without depression, tell me that they struggle to remember things. Secondly because as part of my psychology MSc we have been studying the effects of anxiety in exam performance.
If you have read any of my previous blogs, then you may know that my experience of anxiety and depression lead to me failing my first degree. I always knew deep down that my mental health was a huge factor in my abilities to study and pass exams so studying this from an academic viewpoint is really reassuring!
When researchers look at memory, there are lots of different aspects of memory that can be measured. Most people have heard of long and short term memory and are familiar with the differences, especially If you have ever been around a person with degenerative issues such as Alzheimer’s or Dementia.
What many of my clients report having...
This is the important question right!! You have probably heard of the saying “fake it until you make it”. Well, there is an element of truth to that in that you have to practice being more assertive until it becomes a habit.
As I discussed in my blog about anxiety and communication styles, it is our self-beliefs that dictate how we act in certain situations.
Someone who defaults to an assertive style has the belief: I’m OK, you’re OK
They believe or act as if all the individuals involved are equal, each deserving of respect, and no more entitled than the other to have things done their way.
For someone with anxiety this means you!
You are equally deserving of respect, you are equally entitled to have things done your way and your self-belief has to reflect this.
This can be a challenge in some situations such as when you are new at work, however you can still turn this around in your head and believe...
I have talked before about the link between thoughts, feelings and actions with anxiety and the way we think can have huge consequences for how we feel and what actions we take.
Anxiety can lead to a huge range of actions from avoidance (which is the most common) to more self-destructive behaviours like substance abuse.
In this blog I am going to focus on how anxiety affects the way that we communicate with and treat other people.
There are two main aims of this blog, one that you understand other people a little bit more and hopefully show some compassion for their behaviours that affect you and secondly so that if you are someone who does many of the things I am going to be discussing, you can understand why you do them and hopefully see how you could change them.
It is important that a person with anxiety does take steps to change these behaviours as it will drastically improve the way people perceive you and respond to you.
The way we communicate with...
Many people have seen hypnosis on the TV and associate it with people doing things beyond their control. This type of hypnosis uses a lot of suggestion and a certain amount of trickery to work and, only works on a small proportion of the population.
When we use hypnosis as a therapeutic tool, we are talking really about hypnosis that is similar to being absorbed in a really good book. It is a calm and relaxed focus that allows us to calm the mind and the body so that we can start to train the mind to think differently.
This is particularly useful with issues such as anxiety because it can help combat the overactive mind and physical issues that come with anxiety.
Self-hypnosis is hypnosis that you can do on your own, you don’t need a therapist or an mp3 to talk you through it. There are loads of benefits to this approach but the main one is that you can take control over how you think and feel without the need for loads of therapy sessions....
The Covid-19 pandemic has had a catastrophic effect on so many different countries in the world.
At the time of writing, the UK is about to enter another three weeks of isolation during which all but essential businesses are shut down including mental health services like hypnotherapy and counseling.
When it is done well, online therapy is the same as face to face therapy. I am very thankful that I have been running online sessions for many years now as some of my clients live too far away or can't travel for some reason. Therapists who are comfortable using online platforms are able to be exactly the same as they would be in person.
With my clients, I structure sessions in the same way.
We have a good chat through all the challenges you are facing, map out your anxiety cycle and make a plan for how we are going to work on the issues you have brought up. We can still do hypnosis work over the video call and all exercises and mp3s are emailed over...
This week I am bringing to you a series of exercises that will help you if you are feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed by the current situation or in general.
These exercises are a mixture of NHS recommended breathing, mindfulness and self hypnosis for you to have a go at at home.
The key thing about exercises like this is that you find a way to make them work for you, so give them a go and see what works best for you!
More tips this week on making sure that your mental health doesn't suffer during the current corona virus crisis.
These are recorded in the UK which is at time of recording a couple of days into a lock down in order to prevent the spread of the virus.
The UK advice is to stay at home and people are permitted to leave their homes for essentials and one form of exercise.
Here I share a few tips that will help you keep your mental health under control and help yourself at this incredibly difficult and unsettling time.
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The way we think has a huge impact on our mental health. If you are looking to overcome your anxiety or just improve your mental health then first you need to know what thoughts are making things worse.
This download gives you a list of the most common ways we think negatively. All you need to do is see which ones you do most.
Also, keep an eye on your emails! I will be sending you a really useful video that goes with this exercise.